Chocolate Temptation

My biggest challenge to my Spring weight loss efforts occurred last Friday.  I couldn’t resist cashing in a free meal birthday coupon to Steak and Shake.

There I sat staring at my wife’s huge chocolate shake.  Would I give in and order one for myself?

No!  I resisted, thanks to a different type of weight loss program I wrote about a few weeks ago, Naturally Slim. With Naturally Slim there are no forbidden foods.  Instead of counting calories the program emphasizes when and how I eat, rather than what I eat.  Sugar is discouraged, but if I must have sugar eat it with a meal, NS advises.

Instead of ordering a shake myself, I had two or three spoon fulls of my wife’s shake, and that was enough to feed my chocolate craving.  I had a double cheeseburger (that’s OK under the NS program too), some fries and a small bowl of chili.  The key was eating slowly, savoring my food.  It took me 25 minutes to eat this meal that I would have scarfed down in under 7 minutes under my old habits.

I now have lost 14 pounds on the Naturally Slim program and I am only 8 pounds away from getting back to my desired weight.  I’m optimistic I will reach that goal, even though I am sailing on a 5 night cruise in two weeks.  The abundance of food available on the ship will no doubt be my next big challenge.  Can I resist overindulging in the 5 course meals each evening, the free ice cream, and the late night buffet?

Whether I gain weight on the cruise or not, I’ll post an update here next month.

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Good Experience At The Hay House Writer’s Workshop

“Writer’s workshop this weekend.  Am I really a writer?  Part of me feels intimidated going to a workshop like this.  I haven’t written anything and I’m not sure I will.  I’ll be surrounded by very driven people with definite goals.”

So I wrote in my journal last week as I anticipated attending a Hay House Writer’s Workshop, two full days worth, at a Downtown Denver Hotel.  “Why did I sign up for this?” I wondered at the time.  Saying “I hadn’t written anything” was my inner critic coming out.  I had written something – I’ve been blogging here for a year and a half.  I’m one of the most prolific reviewers on Hay House’s Book Nook site.  But writing a book was a different challenge.

The Writer’s Workshop turned out to be a good experience.  My inadequacy fears were immediately calmed at the start of program.  “How many people here have a book in publication?,” the first speaker, Cheryl Richardson, asked the crowd.  A few hands went up.  “How many are thinking of writing a book?”  More hands raised.  “How many are wondering ‘what am I doing here?!’”  A good number of hands raised in the crowd of 200.  “Whew!  I am not the only one,” I said to myself.

Cheryl went on to describe her own inadequacy fears and the experiences she went through in writing her first book.  I could listen to Cheryl give a talk about changing a tire and I would be inspired.  She has the gift of vulnerability in telling her own life stories to an audience. Along the way she sprinkled in writing tips like “keep track of what you are learning in a journal”, “even if you are never published writing consistently can change your life”, and “stories are your most powerful writing tool”.  She suggested a good book for guidelines on writing a nonfiction book proposal (shown above).  In the end I had four pages of notes from Cheryl’s 3 hour talk – filled with nuggets that are sure to help in my writing process. “At our deepest place all of us are artists and healers,” she said.  “Yes we are,” I thought, “Perhaps even me.”

Other speakers that weekend also impressed me with their vulnerability.  Wayne Dyer, by way of video, told stories of his first nerve wracking appearance on the Tonight Show, and how his wife once called book stores in different accents asking for his “Erroneous Zones” book, in hopes of stimulating sales.  Nancy Levin revealed details of her painful divorce, and how writing poetry helped heal her wounds.  Reid Tracy described his rise from quiet accountant to Hay House President.

More than personal stories, though, the workshop was filled with practical tips for producing a book.  I was surprised that writing exercises led by fiction author Lisa Fugard were applicable to non-fiction writers like myself, too.  Reid Tracy lectured all day Sunday on the nuts and bolts of the publishing industry, the importance of building a platform, and what goes into a winning book proposal.

At the end of the two information packed days Reid encouraged us to take action on all the tips that had been presented.  As part of the workshop Hay House is offering a $10,000 contract to the author who submits the best book proposal.  Win or lose, I see the process of creating a book proposal for this contest as the next step in my growth as a writer.  I’m going to do it!  Wish me luck.

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Will to Wonder (Book Review)

“The Power to Discern”, “The Power to Adjust”, “The Power of Compassion”.  These are three of the 21 Jewels of Knowledge described in Annemarie De Seriere’s book Will to Wonder. “Exercising my Powers puts me in the driver’s seat of my life.  Knowing who I am – a soul – unveils my value and enables me to use my Powers to claim my rightful success,” De Seriere writes in the introduction.  The book “is designed so you can pick a Power to nourish you through the day.”

I liked the format of Will to Wonder.  Each day I would read a “Jewel” and meditate on the chapter’s message. I read little gems like “if you spend your life running around pleasing others, no matter what you do, it will somehow never be enough”, “Contrary to popular belief, consciously practicing introversion is a very powerful tool to effect change.”, and “Ego has many faces; inferiority and superiority are but two.”  These and other statements spread throughout each chapter caused me to stop and think about my life, and how I could better utilize the “Powers” that already reside within me.

More than a self study guide, though, I think Will To Wonder also lends itself to group discussion.  Pick one “Power” a week, study it, and then report back to the group how that Power is working in your life.

De Seriere summarizes each chapter nicely with a short  “Action”, an “Affirmation”, and a “Blessing”.  In the “Power of Faith” chapter, for example, part of the action step reads:

“At the start of any new project, visualize a successful outcome.  Do something each day, no matter how small, towards that outcome, keeping a firm eye on your goal.  Trust that the outcome will be successful and let go.”

This passage has been a good reminder for me as I start my book project that I mentioned last week.

I have found reading a short spiritual piece each day has been helpful for my own growth.  I recommend Will to Wonder for a daily dose of inspiration.

 

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Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself (Book Review)

Can the average person understand and apply the principles of quantum physics to create a new reality in his or her life?  A reality much more creative and fulfilling than the survival patterns most of us are operating out of?

Yes! contends Joe Dispenza in his fascinating new book “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself”.  Don’t let the words “quantum physics” scare you away.  Early in his book Dispenza gives the best explanation I have read to date of what quantum principles are all about.  More importantly, in a detailed step by step manner he explains how we can take this knowledge to implement positive changes in our lives.

“When you and I can connect the dots of what science is discovering about the nature of reality, and when we give ourselves permission to apply those principles in our day-to-day existence, then each of us becomes both a mystic and a scientist in our own life,” Dispenza writes in the introduction.  This was exciting to me, and I wanted to read more.

I liked Dispenza’s vulnerability in describing his own learning curve in quantum living.  After being featured in the documentary “What The Bleep Do We Know?” Dispenza was in great demand as a lecturer.  His problem, he soon realized, was that his daily emotional state depended on the responses he received from his audiences.  “I saw that all of my perceived happiness was really just a reaction to stimuli in the external world that made me feel certain ways,” he writes.  “I didn’t want to lecture again until I was the living example of everything that I was talking about.  I needed to take time for my meditations and to make true change in my life, and I wanted to have joy from within me and not from outside of me.”

Dispenza made these mental adjustments, and he passes on the lessons he learned to his readers.  He also gives many examples throughout the book of others who have made similar changes.  Rather than reading like a dry physics textbook, Dispenza’s colorful descriptions of the quantum process gave me the confidence that I, too, can operate at this level in my own life.

Towards the end of the book Dispenza gives detailed meditation instructions to shift the reader’s base thought pattern from the draining “survival” mode to a more fulfilling “creation” orientation.  I found this a bit overwhelming, so thankfully he also offers a couple of guided meditation audio files on his website to help with the process.  I downloaded and followed one of the meditations, and I can already feel a positive shift inside of me regarding a life change I want to make.

“When you have thoughtfully rehearsed a future reality until your brain has physically changed to look like it has had the experience, and you have emotionally embraced a new intention so many times that your body is altered to reflect that it has had the experience, hang on … because this is the moment the event finds you!” Dispenza writes.  “And it will arrive in a way that you least expect, which leaves no doubt that it came from your relationship to a greater consciousness – so that it inspires you to do it again and again.”

You can get “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself” from these book sellers:

Hay House

Amazon

Barnes & Noble

This is another book review in my partnership with Hay House.  I was not financially compensated for this post. I received the book from Hay House for review purposes. The opinions are completely my own based on my experience.

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A New Approach to Losing Weight

I did it again.

I lost 25 pounds on a disciplined weight loss program last year, only to gain it all back over the winter.  This has been a typical pattern for me over the years with different diets.

There I sat two weeks ago, at the morning breakfast table, trying yet another strategy to get back to my goal weight.  This time I thought I’d eat a shredded wheat biscuit or two for breakfast each morning.  Surely with the high fiber no sugar biscuits for breakfast I’d be certain to lose some weight, right?  Looking at my wife’s breakfast, a chocolate chip muffin, didn’t help.  Neither did my son Josh’s comment after he took a bite of shredded wheat on a dare from his brother.  “It tastes like cardboard,” he said.

Josh was right.  The shredded wheat diet wasn’t going to work.  I shared my diet frustrations with my acupuncturist, and she suggested a different approach.  A program called Naturally Slim (“NS” for short).  I was intrigued.  Instead of counting calories, weighing portions, and avoiding fat like I had done with diet programs of the past, Naturally Slim emphasizes changing when and how I eat, rather than what I eat.

“Inside of each of us is a thin person that eats the foods he or she wants and needs,” NS suggests. “It’s the bad habits we’ve learned…the societal and emotional tendencies to overeat—and the reasons why we do it—that keep us from being that thin person on the outside.”   I liked the sound of this holistic approach to weight loss.  I decided to give the program a try.

My first surprise came when the program actually recommended to skip breakfast!  Eating a hearty breakfast had been a fundamental part of every other weight loss system I had tried.  Instead, NS advises, drink a water/orange juice mix in the morning (7 ounces of water to every 1 ounce orange juice.  The problem, NS suggests, is not that I am hungry in the morning.  It is that I am dehydrated after a night’s sleep.  The water/orange juice blend (called H2Orange in NS lingo) would rehydrate my body, and then I would not feel hungry.

I am only one week into the program, but H2Orange mix is working!  I can see why one NS client called this Orange/Water mix “the nectar of the Gods”.  In the past week I’ve mixed 32 ounces of the magical H2Orange formula each morning, drinking 16 ounces when I get up, and another 16 ounces mid-morning.  I haven’t been hungry.   My first meal of the day has been when I felt hungry (around 12 noon) – one hour later than my previous lunch pattern.  NS stresses tuning into my body’s hunger signals and eating then, rather than dining at set meal times.

The H2Orange blend is only one part of the NS program.  Another key part is adjusting my dining speed - the “how you eat” part of the program.  “Eat for 10 minutes, savoring each bite, rest for 5 minutes, then eat for 10 minutes more” the program advises.  I tried this (a free iphone app helps with the timing and meal tracking).  While at first it took a little getting used to, I can see the benefits.

We dined at my favorite chinese restaurant on Sunday, and with this new eating technique I only ate 1/2 of my entree.  After 25 minutes I was comfortably full!  I took the leftovers home, and ate those for lunch the following day.  Two meals for the price of one.  Under my old eating patterns I would have devoured my entire entree, and the egg rolls my sons’ plates too!

After one week on the program I have lost 4 pounds.  Will the Naturally Slim program lead to long term results?  A healthy weight I can maintain?  I hope so.  One feature of the system I like is that are very few “forbidden” foods.  Other than avoiding sugar where possible, most foods are OK.  This will make NS easier to stick with when I am dining out or traveling compared to the weight loss systems I’ve tried in the past.  And NS isn’t a “diet” – it’s a lifestyle change to a new eating pattern.

Stay tuned and I’ll let you know how NS works over the long haul.  I’m optimistic.

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Wishes Fulfilled (Book Review)

“I am God”

Early in his book “Wishes Fulfilled: Mastering the Art of Manifesting” Wayne Dyer encourages his readers to declare this bold statement.  The key to manifesting your desires, Dyer believes, is recognizing your divine nature and live from that.

Now this statement will immediately cause some readers to toss the book aside.  “Much of organized religious teaching proclaims that God is an all powerful being outside of you,” Dyer says.  People of that mindset will no doubt consider “Wishes Fulfilled” heresy.

I would encourage you to stick with Dyer and let him explain this different concept of God than what you may be familiar with. “There exists within all of us a Divine spark, called the I am that I am, and when it is kindled and nourished, it is capable of miracle-making at an astonishing level,” Dyer writes.

Two keys to “miracle-making”, says Dyer, are your imagination and feelings.  “Once you place a thought into your imagination about who you want to become, I encourage you to live from that end, as if it had already materialized into the physical realm,” he writes.  And “when you are able to passionately feel whatever it is that you wish to have or become, as long as it is aligned with your highest self – that is, God – you become it and it becomes you.”

I liked these ideas and looked backed at the accomplishments in my own life.  Did I not first “imagine” that I could create something special, and “feel” it was possible, before my past visions became reality?  Yes!  Reading Dyer’s detailed explanation of this process encouraged me to make these mental exercises a part of my daily routine.  I created a one page summary of the book’s key points and pasted it to my “quote wall” at home, where I look at it every day.  I am excited to see what future “miracles” occur in my life by following these principles.

Dyer gives many examples throughout the book from his own life and from others on how this process can change lives.  One in particular I was impressed with was the story of Anita Moorjani, a woman who was on the brink of death yet healed herself of cancer after a realization of her true loving nature.  Dyer also touches on other spiritual phenomena, like the presence of mysterious “orbs” in photographs at his lectures, and his own remote healing from the Brazilian “John Of God”.

Wayne Dyer in my opinion is one of the great spiritual teachers alive on the planet today.  “Wishes Fulfilled” is another in his series of inspirational books that have had a positive impact on my life.  “Let your imagination explore your invisible realm in a way that will allow this new energy to permeate your life,” Dyer suggests.  “Move to a place within yourself where Wishes Fulfilled is a new way of being rather than just the title of a book.”

You can get “Wished Fulfilled” from these book sellers:

Hay House

Amazon

Barnes & Noble

This is another book review in my partnership with Hay House.  I was not financially compensated for this post. I received the book from Hay House for review purposes. The opinions are completely my own based on my experience.

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How to Pray Without Talking to God (Book Review)

When I saw the initial response James Twyman’s “Best Spiritual Author Competition” I was not impressed.  It seems author after author came out of the woodwork on the web with promos saying “vote for me!  pick my book!”.  I was in a class at my church where one aspiring writer was upset with the minister teaching the course.  The instructor would not allow the author to solicit for votes for his book during class time.  “Is this competition just a popularity contest?” I wondered.  Will the winner be the more skilled in campaigning rather than spiritual insights?

Much to my surprise a true gem of a book came out the winner of the “spiritual author” competition – “How to Pray Without Talking to God: moment by moment, choice by choice” by Linda Martella-Whitsett.

“Perhaps you, like countless others, are leaving your church, temple, synagogue, or mosque in disillusionment,” Martella-Whitsett writes early in her book.  “Maybe you are filled with knowledge based upon your religion’s teachings about god, all the while longing to experience god. Maybe you are ready for a concept of god that is unconfined by dogma and an experience of god that is intimate as well as expansive.”  These words spoke to me, having been raised with traditional Christian doctrine where my actual experiences of God were rare.  It was not until I looked beyond doctrine where I connected to the unconditional love of Spirit.

How to Pray Without Talking to God emphasizes affirmative prayer to get in touch with the Spirit within – what Martella-Whitsett calls our “Divine Identity”.  Instead of pleading to a God “out there”, true prayer is “to claim and assert our Divine Identity so that we can live more fully from it,” she writes.  This is different than expecting God to change other people or circumstances to our liking.

The type of prayer promoted in Martella-Whitsett’s book will give you peace in any circumstance.  Some realizations I have come to independently were confirmed in reading the book.  Martella-Whitsett has the gift of explaining sometimes difficult to grasp spiritual truths in understandable language.

And for all those disappointed writers who failed to win the “Best Spiritual Author” competition – read this book to be reminded again of who you really are.   As an aspiring writer myself (with a whole 8 followers on my writer facebook page :-) ) I need to remember, also, that whether my words resonate with people in the end really doesn’t matter.  I don’t need to be a successful author to be somebody in the World.  I already am somebody!  “Realization occurs when truth becomes real to you, no longer theoretical. You get it!” Martella-Whitsett writes.  “Whereas before you believed it, now you know it. It doesn’t matter whether anyone else knows it or whether you have seen its manifestation. You now live into this truth.”

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More On Introverts

Last month I reviewed Susan Cain’s excellent book “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking “ .  Not everyone is into books, though, so I was glad to see Susan Cain this week on a TED Talk summarizing the key points of her book:

Most of the comments on the TED site were positive in response to Susan’s presentation.  One critic, however, posted, “Typical introvert. Claims to love extroverts and the appearance of equality, but somehow in her mind believes that introverts are “better” and offer far more to the world. She’s a bit deluded, isn’t she?”

That is exactly what Susan Cain is not saying.  Her message, I think, is to get people to appreciate both introverts and extroverts.  The World is a better place when people are free to be themselves, whether it be introverted, extroverted, or a mix of the two.  The talk raises the awareness of the strengths of the introvert personality type, but not at the expense of extroverts.  Cain encourages all personality types at the conclusion of her talk “to grace us with your energy and joy”.

More voices for introverts that I discovered through Twitter are Barbara and Greg Markway, who have a regular column in Psychology Today.  In this column Greg Markway tells of an introverted 18 year old, Adam, who had trouble getting a job because most employers are looking for extroverted qualities from an applicant.  “We live in a culture that rewards the outgoing,” Markway writes,  “even when the introvert may be more knowledgeable and skilled.”

The story of Adam reminds me of my twin 18 year old sons.  One is more outgoing than the other. He got a job after his first interview. The second son, an introvert, was rejected in interview after interview by businesses looking for more “perky” teens.

I kept encouraging son #2 to keep trying, as I had been rejected in countless interviews myself over the years. Eventually he found a health food grocery store that was willing to give him a chance. He’s still on that job one year later as a bagger. He was hired with 7 other baggers – all but one other has since quit. When I go into the store one of the managers tells me what a good conscientious worker my son is, and how happy they are to have him.

Adam, like my son #2, will eventually find a place that values his skills. It seems introverts have to work harder to get in the door sometimes, but once in they often thrive.

Thank you to Susan Cain and the Markways for stepping out of your own natural introversion to promote the positives of the “quiet” temperament.  You encourage other introverts like me to step out, too.

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Love, God, and the Art of French Cooking (book review)

We’ve all met them.  People we know who just seem to have it all together.  Positive people who live life to the fullest each day.  They aren’t famous,  but they are a source of inspiration to their family and friends.

James Twyman in his new book “Love, God, and the Art of French Cooking” tells his story of meeting a man like this.  Left abandoned by his girlfriend on the driveway of a Canadian bed and breakfast, Twyman is approached by a distinguished French gentleman named Roger.  It turns out Roger is the owner of the Drew House,  and also a renowned French chef.  Sensing Twyman’s despondent mood, Roger invites him in for a cup of coffee.

“The best life is the one that brings joy to others – that is the way to happiness,” Roger tells Twyman over the breakfast table that morning.  “This is why I love to cook, because when I use the best ingredients I can find and put love into everything I make, it changes people’s moods … and sometimes even their lives.”  Soon the two become friends, and the relationship would change Twyman’s life forever.

In “French Cooking” Twyman is very open in describing his issues with women.  The author brings the reader into the heart of his pain, and at times this can be depressing to read.  Yet in being open with his self doubt, Twyman sets us up to hear the words of wisdom from Roger.

I liked one segment early in the book where Roger instructs Twyman on the proper way to chop garlic, making an analogy to life in the process.  If you slowly cut garlic into little slivers, Roger says, it retains its juice.  By the time you put it on the fire, it’s locked its juice inside, diminishing the flavor.  A better way is to smash the garlic with great force, destroying it and completely exposing the juice.  “Your life is not meant to be slowly dissected, ” Roger relates, “it is meant to be smashed.  The juice inside you flows out and adds flavor to everything you touch.  When you try to control circumstances and the people around you, you’re doing so out of fear.  You need to let go of the fear and let it spill out into the world like this garlic.”  The book is full of cooking instructions like this, transformed into lessons about life.

I also liked how “The Art of French Cooking” builds nicely to a climax.  As Twyman works through one relationship issue after another under the counsel of Roger, the story leads to France.  Twyman and Roger fly to Paris to meet Roger’s mentor, Alain – a world famous chef.  “How could Alain possibly affect Twyman more than Roger has?” I thought to myself as I read through the pages, anxious to see how the book would end.  The trip to France does have a profound impact on Twyman, and he summarizes well in the book’s concluding pages what he learned about himself from these two French chefs.

I have admired James Twyman from his work in movies (such as “The Moses Code”) and from the wisdom he shared on his Hay House radio show.  But this was the first book of his I have read.  Twyman has the gift of opening up his life to his readers, allowing them to see parallels in their own lives.  I look forward to reading more from James Twyman.

You can get “Love, God, and the Art of French Cooking” from these book sellers:

Hay House

Amazon

Barnes & Noble

This is another book review in my partnership with Hay House.  I was not financially compensated for this post. I received the book from Hay House for review purposes. The opinions are completely my own based on my experience.

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Toastmasters: Like Father Like Son

I have mentioned in the past my guest blog post on Susan Cain’s Power Of Introverts site about my positive experience in Toastmasters.  I overcame my fear of public speaking thanks to Toastmasters!  I am not sure if my blog post encouraged anyone to give Toastmasters a try, but I know of one person it influenced – my son.

Josh is an introvert like me.  For his senior class project he was asked to come up with a proposal that would be a stretch for him.  After hearing of the impact Toastmasters had on my life Josh decided to take a similar step.  “I often have trouble speaking in front of even a class of people, and I want to overcome that fear,” Josh wrote.  “I also know that speech and communication skills are necessary for almost any possible career path that I can enter.  In the future, when I need to make a presentation or lead a group of people, I am
certain that the skills I learn from this project will aid me immensely.”

Josh found a nearby Toastmaster club, visited a couple of times, and joined right after his 18th birthday.  Walking into a club of 20+ adults must have been scary at first, but Josh was warmly welcomed.  He got his first taste of speaking in front of the group with a short one minute impromptu speech.  That went well, but the big test was to come – the 5 to 7 minute icebreaker speech!

Josh was nervous the night before the speech.  “Write a blog about it,” I told him.  “Say exactly what you are feeling before the speech in words, and then right after the speech tell people how it went.”  I told him of another introverted high school student, Brittany Wood, who described her Toastmaster experience in her excellent blog The Shyness Project.

Josh’s first speech was a big success!  He came home smiling and telling us how the speech went much better than he thought it would.  He received many evaluations (pictured above) with words of encouragement and constructive criticism on how to improve.  And Josh did take my suggestion to write about the experience – you can read his before and after first speech thoughts on his Mastering Toastmasters blog.

“This project is a learning stretch for me because I am in no way comfortable right now speaking in front of a large group of people.  I have done (school) presentations and similar speeches, but I have always been nervous beforehand and not satisfied with the end result,” Josh wrote in his class project  proposal.  “This project will bring me way out of my comfort zone by putting me in front of a group of people that I don’t even know to give speeches to.  It will be a hard transition, but I know that in the end my leadership and communication skills will be miles better than they are now.”

You are well on your way to becoming a good speaker, Josh!  And it brings a smile to this Dad’s face to see his son have a positive experience with Toastmasters just like I did 30 years ago.

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